Then we guess which family member the card is describing and why. We have also used a wonderful activity at the dinner table whereby we write down positive adjectives that describe each family member on cards and pull them out of a bowl. Yet, in less than five minutes, he had successfully reintroduced himself into the play that was happening with the other kids using a strategy I had guided him towards using those "prompts." "I know you're using prompts, Mom, so I'm not going to say as much," my ever-observant son informed me. ![]() I modeled what I was saying off a situation in the book. He saw me with the book and said, "I saw the title of that book and I want nothing to do with it!" □ I held the book open in my lap and followed a process the book lays out for frustrating (for the child) situations. Recently, I pulled this book out to refer to during a conversation with Jack when he was feeling left out of play that was happening with his sister and cousin. The strategies in this book have helped me address her frustration with reading in ways that have proven to be very effective in getting her over her negativity and she has grown leaps and bounds over the last few months in her attitude and effort in reading. Juliana's negative brain has reared its ugly head in significant ways over the years when it comes to learning to read. □ The name is so hilarious that not a single one of us can stop ourselves from laughing whenever we talk about him and, immediately, the levity has seeped into the negativity and we are well on our way past it. Jack named his negative brain Billy Bong Johnson. Both Jack and Juliana have named their negative brain and we refer to them when we see them emerge in our home. This helps kids build in some separation from their negativity by talking about it using that name. One of the pieces of advice given by Chansky is to have students name their negative brain. And the other strategies I have tried from this book have worked like a charm on BOTH of my kids! ![]() Some of the scripts are similar to conversations I have with myself as an adult in order to pull myself out of a negative mindset so I already know they have worked for me. These strategies come in the form of activities, conversation starters, scripts, role plays, questions to ask, etc. Most self help books seem to dwell in the abstract or in ambiguity, but this one is full of concrete and specific actions to take to address its issue. This book has taught me so much about what to do to help! I know my child is a negative thinker (and all children are at times) and I know that I, as the parent, can exacerbate or minimize that negative mindset. Chansky is an example of the perfect book falling into my life at the perfect time. And, by default, who then might be the perfect reader for the book.įreeing Your Child From Negative Thinking by Tamar E. I write this about my child not to shame, but as an example of who this next book I am reviewing is written about. I don't care if I don't get an allowance." Immediately, the child fell onto the couch in tears and cried, "There's too much! I can't do it!" (This is a job done by both my children three times a week, so not a new or unusual request.) For the next half hour I was told repeatedly, "I will not do the dishes. At our house we rotate who is in charge of dishes and this particular child had that job today. This evening, I told one of my children that it was time to do the dishes. Don't keep it from your child pass it on." (p226) ![]() "Managing adversity is one of the great secrets to success. Even if you just take one idea from each section, this book has wonderful content. Parents who are overwhelmed with emotions and situations don't always have time to read 300-plus pages, but TRY. I offer these suggestions because I bought the book and despite the fact that I kind of do this for a living, it was kind of too much for me. Then in two months, do it again, selecting three different actions. Again, you might want to take a piece of paper and write down three things from each chapter that you're going to try. The material goes down several levels Because of this, you might want to copy down the sections you like on an index card so that you can remember them.Įach of the chapters has really valuable information. ![]() See how it only mentions one level down in the chapters? Well that's not true. It's like interviewing a top-level specialist! It's got great information, but I write books that overwhelmed parents can immediately use, and I have some suggestions:įirst of all, look at the table of contents.
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